How to support your little ones through the California wildfires
To say what’s happening in Los Angeles right now is devastating feels like an understatement. It’s hard to find the words that capture the enormity of the loss, fear, and pain so many families are experiencing right now.
If you’re finding it difficult to keep yourself calm and collected, you’re also probably finding it hard to reassure your children and ease their worries. I hope that by creating this mini guide I can offer you a little bit of information on some helpful strategies to guide some difficult and overwhelming conversations in a precarious time. But most of all, I want you to know that as a parent, you know your child(ren) better than anyone else. It can be hard to tap into that sense of confidence and trust yourself when your nervous system is on over-drive, but know that you still have the power to create a sense of calm and safety for your little ones.
Keep routines and plans the same to the best of your abilities. Whether it’s mornings or bedtime, the structure will provide a sense of predictability and safety. Maintaining some sense of “normal” during unprecedented times can feel stabilizing.
Limit exposure to the media and news (this goes for you too, parents!). It may be helpful to set screen time limits, adjust notifications, and be more intentional about how much media you’re consuming. Unless it’s directly related to your safety and that of your loved ones, do your best to minimize. Constant exposure can be disruptive to your nervous system and exacerbate worry and anxiety.
Share about all the great things first responders and the community are doing to help put fires out, support those who have been displaced and lost their homes. This can instill a sense of hope and demonstrate that people are working together to get through difficult times. You can even involve your child in providing support whether it’s purchasing care items or making donations.
Provide extra comfort and support during times of transition/separation (i.e., bedtime, school drop off). It’s not uncommon for anxiety to be heightened when saying good bye or goodnight. Your child might seek out more physical affection or reassurance during times of stress and uncertainty. Take it as an opportunity to love on them a little extra.
Have simple, yet honest conversations and try to maintain a sense of optimism and hope. This can be tricky when we’re navigating our own stress and anxiety but withholding information often increases fear or worry. Validating their feelings and providing reassurance is much more important than doing it “perfectly.”
Embrace any moments you can to take care of yourself. It can be hard to find the energy to care for yourself during times of stress and crisis, especially as a parent. Simple breathing and grounding exercises can be a quick way to regulate your nervous system and hold space for yourself.
Additional resources:
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